So many a time we come across situations that leave us in a flux of if its right or wrong or is it even something to be discussed.
Awareness about toxic behavior and toxic relationships has been making the round on the internet and news recently, and it makes you question if such behavior is limited only to the boy or girl relations or friends. Can family not be a part of this. Or are they to high and mighty to be put in this category..
I mean no disrespect but if as a parent you are the one causing self-esteem issues in your child, you are toxic for them, we don’t talk about it. I feel we take child abuse at the hand of family and parents very lightly. The rate of child kidnapping and abuse especially by relatives is rising every day like wild fire and it astounds me that the government has not taken action regarding it.
Although highly obsessed with the western world we don’t pick up the good behaviors from them. They have an entire department that looks after child treatment and care. With surprise evaluations and interviews.
They make sure kids are being treated right mentally and physically and those that aren’t are taken away from such negative situations. This isn’t as dramatic as people here think it is. logically speaking if you put a person in a negative, life draining situation you cannot expect them to do much positive in life or in their surroundings.
Government of Pakistan should take action on this ugly aspect of the society. The amount of children turning dark from the onslaught of mistreatment from family at a young age, makes me question what we are turning into.
In poor families children are forced to forsake their childhood and aspiration so they can earn for the family as maids and servants to the rich. With no guarantees of how they will be treated and it stuns me how families with children willingly mistreat these kids because they aren’t their own, and they are the house help so they are degraded. WHAT is this mentality and where is the government in all of this.
The situation while not as physically tormenting for the middle class and upper middle class is just as bad on the mental abuse. It starts young and stays there until it is normalized, things like Our appearance and color are the hot topics of debate in family gatherings but the academic results aren’t far behind. Instead of building your child up and helping them face their issues. Which to them must be really huge due to which they can’t be the picture perfect image you have engraved in your mind you dig in those insecurities with nagging and snide comments.
This isn’t teaching them to work hard. Instead it teaches that no matter what they do it will never be good enough.
Parents need to understand that showcasing a perfect happy image in front of the abroad returned family isn’t as important as it is for your own children if you keep fighting with each other in front of them but behave civil in public you are just making them think “THEY” caused you to fight. It’s truly heart breaking.
I haven’t even started on the physical punishment. Do you as a sane person think that a child of 2 or 3 years of age would be able to understand or decipher etiquettes and the cognitive problem solving approach that you have at your 20s or 30s, because i dont and then you slap or scream at them for crying or being “CHILDISH” these are the kind of people you need to protect children from, because punishing kids for behaving their age is disgusting. There is no cultural appropriation for it, that makes you a bad person. No debate on it.
Such behavior only inculcates feeling of inadequacies and loneliness among children which is also why teenagers are so atrocious and depressed now a days they practice what they observed. The government should create workshops to educate parents of both urban and rural gatherings and should make laws to protect children’s with families. as well as orphans in orphanages.
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